Letting Go of a Relationship
By Kimmie Rose Zapf
Letting go of a relationship has to be one of the most difficult lessons we experience from lifetime
to lifetime. We start a relationship feeling a special connection and as the relationship grows we
begin to experience "love", "comfort" and feelings of "purpose". We begin to feel like everything in
our life is better and we are happier. We go into a state of feeling "bliss". This is the euphoric
feeling of love.
When the person we are in love with tells us they have "fallen" out of love the first thing we begin
to experience is "loss". We begin to feel like we are losing a part of ourselves. After we go through
the feelings of loss we then begin to wonder how this person that we knew so well could let us
down. We wonder what is wrong with ourselves that they would no longer love us. We begin to
question our self worth. Then, we become bitter and begin to forget why we fell in love in the first
place. We allow ourselves to be swallowed up by the fear of abandonment.
The question I would like to pose to everyone is "what is love". I believe that we put too much
energy into the fact that love is this "thing" that makes our life better if we can have it. If we work
hard enough and are valuable enough of a person we can keep it. What we forget is that we are
love. That we are all created in the image of God and God is love. Our society has forgotten how
to truly love ourselves. We need to get back to our own individuality. In essence, it's our "purpose".
This purpose is to "be love'. If we can do this then we can learn to fall in love with ourselves and
then we can have a fulfilling relationship.
The biggest mistake we make in relationships is to put this expectation on them.
Think about how much pressure we put on those around us by putting them on pedestal to make
us feel whole, to feel happy and loved. We need to remember that anytime we put an expectation
on another person to feel loved we are giving up our own power. We are also setting ourselves up
to feel "fear". Fear being the opposite of love.
By embracing that you already have love within you and that you are already whole you can then
share it with another person. "Falling" in love has already happened within ourselves. Sharing love
is something that can be a wonderful experience. I believe a true relationship between two people
is one that has no fear of being alone. There is no expectation of feeling whole or complete
because we are already whole and being part of this person's life enhances our life.
BIO: Kimmie Rose Zapf is an internationally renowned intuitive, medium, author, speaker and radio
host. She is a regular guest on several radio stations across the country and is the host of her own
radio program, "InnerViews with Kimmie & Steve" heard worldwide on www.psychiconair.com and
available through 120 CBS radio markets around the country. Kimmie is also the author of several
books including her most recent book, Wake Up Your Intuition: A Clairvoyant Reveals The Psychic
Process. For more information on Kimmie Rose Zapf, please visit her website at
www.kimmierose.com.